The Five Love Languages Profile for Husbands

You may think you already know your primary love language. Then again, you may have no clue. The Five Love Languages Profile will help you know for certain which love language is yours—Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, or Physical Touch.

How to Take This Profile

There are 30 pairs of statements—select only ONE per pair (the statement that best reflects what feels more loving to you).
Move steadily; first instinct is usually accurate.
Complete when relaxed (estimate 15–30 minutes, distraction-free).
After finishing, tally each letter frequency; higher total = stronger language signal.
Close second scores indicate secondary (support) language.

Interpreting and Using Your Profile Score

Your primary love language is the one that received the highest score. You are “bilingual” and have two primary love languages if point totals are equal for any two love languages. If your second highest scoring love language is close in score but not equal to your primary love language, then this simply means that both expressions of love are important to you. The highest possible score for any one love language is 12.

You may have scored certain ones of the love languages more highly than others, but do not dismiss those other languages as insignificant. Your wife may express love in those ways, and it will be helpful to you to understand this about her.

In the same way, it will benefit your wife to know your love language and express her affection for you in ways that you interpret as love. Every time you or your wife speak each other’s language, you score emotional points with one another. Of course, this isn’t a game with a scorecard! The payoff of speaking each other’s love language is a greater sense of connection. This translates into better communication, increased understanding, and, ultimately, improved romance.

Next Step Conversation Prompts

“When did you last feel strongly loved by me? What was I doing?”
“What’s one weekly rhythm we can start for your primary language?”
“How can I avoid unintentional ‘love withdrawals’?”

Encourage your wife to complete the companion profile. Compare, plan, and implement one habit each this week.

About This Book

Chapman, Gary - The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts (Chapman, Gary)

Introduces a five-path system for delivering emotionally registered love. Diagnostic profiles accelerate discovery and application.

Use scores to negotiate weekly language-specific micro‑habits.